Before I was born, my dad left my mom. Didn’t want anything to do with the unborn baby and took off. My mom was faced with a lot of choices. She found a couple who wanted to adopt me upon birth. When the time came and she delivered me, she said she held me in her arms and called off the adoption. She wanted to keep me and that was the end of it.
What started out as such a tender moment between a mother and a child, resulted in a life full of regret. Regret on my part.
I WISH my mom had adopted me out. I WISH she would have given me to the couple.
Why?
Because all my life, she was horrible to me. She abused me…physically, emotionally, and when I became a Christian, she abused me spiritually.
I remember right after I turned 18 years old, after a massive beat down that I had received, I told her that I was a legal adult now and if she ever beat me again I’d call the cops. Now that I was an adult, she could not legally beat me. She knew I meant it and FINALLY, after a lifetime of beatings, she stopped.
But the scars from living a life of abuse hold true even to now. She tried to murder me when I was a teen. I was so scared, I locked myself in the bathroom and wouldn’t come out for hours.
Why am I telling you this?
Because if you ARE considering adoption, you may want to hear it from a child’s perspective. Yes, we are always curious about our birth parents, yes, we want to meet them and see them (I never saw my dad and would have LOVED to see even a picture of him before he died), but it’s not always such a heinous thing to give a child away. Don’t let people make you feel bad. Sometimes, you can’t take care of a baby, sometimes, there’s no other option and that’s okay.
God knows your heart. He cares about you, AND your baby. You need to do what’s right for your baby first, and also for you, giving the baby the best chance at a successful and healthy life. There’s no shame in that and I don’t want you to feel any shame.
Make it a matter of great prayer and decide what to do before the Lord. He alone is your judge, not anyone else in the world. Okay. ❤️
Remember that adopting out a child is not a sin, so it’s YOUR decision to make, whatever YOU want to do before the Lord.
Bible Verses About Adoption
These verses will help you decide what’s right for your family.
If you’re working with someone considering adoption, these verses are a great start to know what to say to help them make the best decision. Just love on them and support them. It’s always a tough situation, but we are called to walk through life with our sisters and be there for them always, helping in any way we can.
1) Psalm 27:10
“For my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me in.”
2) Isaiah 49:15
“Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you.”
3) Ephesians 1:5
“He predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will,”
4) Romans 8:23
“And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies.”
5) Psalm 82:3-4
“Give justice to the weak and the fatherless; maintain the right of the afflicted and the destitute. Rescue the weak and the needy; deliver them from the hand of the wicked.”
6) Jeremiah 29:11
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
7) Psalm 10:14
“But you do see, for you note mischief and vexation, that you may take it into your hands; to you the helpless commits himself; you have been the helper of the fatherless.”
8) Matthew 25:34-40
‘Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’’
9) James 1:27
“Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.”
10) Psalm 139:16
“Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.”
11) Galatians 4:4-5
“But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons.”
12) Romans 8:15
“For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, Abba! Father!”
13) Psalm 68:5-6
“Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation. God settles the solitary in a home; he leads out the prisoners to prosperity, but the rebellious dwell in a parched land.”
14) Isaiah 1:17
“Learn to do good; seek justice, correct oppression; bring justice to the fatherless, plead the widow’s cause.”
15) Exodus 2:10
When the child grew older, she brought him to Pharaoh’s daughter, and he became her son. She named him Moses, “Because,” she said, “I drew him out of the water.”
16) John 14:18
“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.”
