It’s so awesome that you want to be biblical and handle things in a manner worthy of Christ. So cool!
The first thing I would say is to seek first the kingdom of God (Matthew 6:33). When we are seeking His highest glory, we will tend to walk in the spirit and do the right things. When our focus is planted deeply on Him and not ourselves, doing and knowing what He wants us to do becomes a lot easier.
Secondly, the Bible. The Bible is the answer to everything.
Within the Bible, you can find the answers. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 tells us that. Knowing the Bible inside and out is our goal as believers. We want to know our God, we want to know how to please Him, we want to know how to be more godly and line our lives up to His glory.
Studying out the Bible on a regular (daily) basis, will really help know what to do. God will bring you to the passages He wants you to see if you’re immersing yourself in it. He’ll light the way.
Third, seeking His will. Some good questions to ask yourself to help you decide are…
- Will this glorify God?
- Will it be spiritually profitable?
- Will it cultivate godliness?
- Will it harm my brother or sister in Christ?
- Can it be done for the Lord?
- Will it build me up in spiritual maturity?
- Will it slow me down in the race for God?
- Is this decision what I’d want my children or my best friend to do?
- Will it please God?
- Will this give an overall appearance of evil or good? Will it hypocritically cover my sin?
- Will it bring me into bondage? Does it have the potential to make me its slave?
- Will this express that I love God?
- Do you have any doubts? Ask God to give you peace.
- Will this lead to my downfall?
- Will it violate the Lordship of Christ in my life?
- Could doing this become my master (idolatry)?
- Will this harm the temple of God, me, or my neighbor?
- Will it help other Christians by its example?
- Will it lead others to Christ?
- Is it consistent with Christ-likeness?
- Have you sought the counsel of trusted, godly people in your life regarding this situation?
Make everything you do a matter of prayer.
I remember, a long time ago being married, and my ex-husband wasn’t a believer and he was making fun of me. He said to me one day, “You have to pray about everything. You can’t even go to the bathroom without praying about it.”
What he meant as a diss, I took it as the highest compliment.
Thank you! I DO pray a lot. Not to go to the bathroom 😆 but yeah, I pray a lot. I’m not ashamed of that. I love God, wanna do what He wants me to do.
Be an avid prayer warrior. James 5:16.
Doing those things consistently will help guide you in the right direction and help you know what to do. He will lead you!
